May 14, 2017
Honoring Mother’s in the Autoimmune Encephalitis Community:
Happy Mother’s Day from International Autoimmune Encephalitis Society
Choosing ‘Special’ Mothers
Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures and a couple by habit.
This year nearly 660,000 women will become mothers of a child with a disability.Did you ever wonder how mothers of children with disabilities are chosen?
Somehow I visualize God hovering over earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation.As he observes, he instructs his angels to make notes in a giant ledger.
“Armstrong, Beth, son.Patron saint: Matthew.Forrest, Majorie, daughter, Patron Saint: Cecilia.”
“Rudledge, Carrie, twins, Patron Saint…Give her Gerard.He’s used to profanity.”
Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles.“Give her a disabled Child.”The angel is curious.“Why this one, God?She’s so happy.”
“Exactly,” smiles God.“Could I give a disabled child to a mother who does not know laughter?That be cruel.”
“But, has she patience?” asks the angel.
“I don’t want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair.Once the shock and resentment wear off, she’ll handle it.”
“I watched her today.She has that feeling of self and independence that is so rare and so necessary in a mother.You see, the child I’m going to give her has his own world.She has to make it live in her world and that’s not going to be easy.”
“But, Lord, I don’t think she even believes in you.”
God smiles, “No matter.I can fix that.This one is perfect, she has just enough selfishness.”
The angel gasps.“Selfishness, is that a virtue?”
God nods.“If she can’t separate herself from the child occasionally, she’ll never survive.Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect.She doesn’t realize it yet, but she is to be envied.She will never take for granted a spoken word.She will never consider a step ordinary.When her child says ‘Momma’ for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it.When she describes what a sunset makes her feel like to her child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations.”
“I will permit her to see clearly the things I see…ignorance, cruelty, prejudice…and allow her to rise above these.She will never be alone.I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is by my side.”
“And what about her Paton Saint?” asks the angel, his pen poised in midair.
God smiles.“A mirror will suffice.”
By: Erma Bombeck